Feb 18, 2015

Gossip & Backbiting are mental syndrome so stay back at a discreet distance.

Gossip & Backbiting has a little difference but both are curse and everyone should refrain & reserve from such mental syndrome. It does not only reflect a positive mental attitude but spoils individual’s life in totality.

If such mental illness continues getting you more bewildered & disgruntled, afflicting with myriad problems, apparently known as silent killer that’s gets you disguise and sneak in other’s affairs.

Gossip approaches towards rumor and information basically pass-on others may be true or false. It leads to heightening stories or spreading unconfirmed news horizontally, prone to fabricate and forge a fictitious edifice of sands which of course in reality is nothingness & doing so falls under the ambit of gossip.

Information that’s moves from one person to another about other people’s behavior and private lives often including unkind and untrue remarks, Gossip however is classified into

(a)    Juicy gossip indicates an interesting and shocking especially pertains to someone sexual behavior 
(b)   Idle gossip reflects idle curiosity
(c)    Hot gossip denotes current rumors mushrooming around
(d)   Malicious gossip manifests unkind and cruel deliberately behaving in a way that may harm and hurt others
(e)   Common gossip exhibits a general discussion spanning or flashing
(f)     Office gossip about colleagues, staff and management on someone hiring, promotion, transfer, special facility etc. & similarly
(g)    Home gossip & Village gossip what boils around

Whilst ‘backbiting’ you talk about other in his/ her absence reflects negative thoughts or bad words for one’s behavior or attitude – unpleasant and cruel talks about someone who is not present.

Gossip we do at home, in family and with our friends about others activities with dual approach either it’s may be correct or incorrect without knowing its impact on others life which can tarnish, disgrace, defame and conclusively can appear as a curse for whom it is being talked about. Certainly such practice is not good which destroys the image & personality for whom the discussion is continuing.

From a good person who is man of principal and maintains moral ethic, values and standard will not do so talking in absence of someone which almost ends on negativity, whatever the problem or complaints if you have about he/ she should discuss in presence of him/ her instead to ignite and incite hatred or involve the things which originally has no relation with him/ her. 

‘Backbiting’ basically is the result &product of frustration & depravity, encroachment on the rights, disappointments & depression a feeling of sadness, deepening and plunge into recession, victimization & ineffectual result of the efforts gained which were not up to the mark as expected & unfair behavior etc.

As a test case we take here office environment - the growing such symptoms (sated above) tantamount that the person himself/ herself is not aware of potentiality what he/ she has - don’t know about the caliber required to be acknowledged or possibility to open up new vistas of avenue for promotion, or he/ she is overconfident about work and conduct or lacking the substantial skills required to weigh while appraising their performance at the year-end & just vociferating that he/ she has been stiffened instead to realize that they are stuck in a groove and unable to accept their disqualification and errors in practicality.

Though some time we get biased management but such nasty and rusted elements do not last and very soon face they are doomed, so in broad spectrum it does not happen in most of the institutions if you are competent and have ability then prove yourself instead to make hue and cry and do backbiting.

In short all such opposite and negative attitude of the person feels them orchestrated and then he/ she starts backbiting for his/ her colleague/ family and other member of the society where they dwell.

Whereas Gossip considers one who goes about telling and hearing news, to run about telling idle or malicious tale, scandalous rumor and tittle-tattle, spreading news without knowing its authenticity and base, involving others with the believe for not to tell others but it goes ahead like a jungle fire.

Gossip can be a conversation about others that reveals information about their personal or private life, or a general report of the behavior of other people and it can be a way of talking without divulging too much information about oneself.

Gossip is not limited to woman but man also have been noticed to engage in it, the nature of information the way it is passed seems different but overall objective is the same, even those who do engage in malicious gossip, often do it unconsciously.

Gossip has no relation with civilized or uncivilized society; it has been penetrated since beginning, nature and environment of communication goes differ but practice behind gossiping is the same and so long as we are alive such ailment will see it continuing.

Every Religion forbids also for not to do Gossiping Backbiting. We understand that by gossiping we are developing our alliances and there will be more strength in building relationship (while gossiping) with each other and that our status before others (with whom gossiping) will be more impressive and building influence.  When we talk we drop names of people we know, we show how we know about certain people and so build ourselves up in the eyes of the person or people we are talking to.

So Gossiping & Backbiting both are harmful & we must be very careful while sharing others in our conversation. In both cases we are talking about the person who is not in between us, which indicates to insult and degrade the person (who is not available) so that we may keep our head-on with whom we are exchanging our views.

Feb 12, 2015

Your personality opens new vistas of avenue (always) if it is maintained adequately

Unequivocally ‘’personality’’ enables you to get response & return (immediately) despite having other mandatory characteristics in you either related to your job or your presence in social life, whether you belong to showbiz, associated with any services industries or work in sales & marketing whatever the avenue or area, business corridor or venue.

Personality shapes & reinvents, exhibits & showcases your figure more convincingly & impulsively, every traits & qualities comes after, first you impress others with your dynamic personality, perfectly grooming your face and hair.

Maintaining personality with intensity exposes you more graceful and pleasant, of course through your proper dressing with matching suits, hair combing & polished shoes get other to look at you with cheers.

So we are certain that personality with suitable dress-code is concomitant rather personality shines from decent dressing, makes you sparky and lively when you have elegant dress on your body or you are in attractive outfit and that adornment persuades others to speak to you.

And this is you who opens the door to move further and that’s the reason we name the ‘’personality’’ a synopsis which manifests everything in a nutshell when you appear in syndication or go for interview or work in front line of business though back office also needs but compromise on front line of business is not advantageous.

Proper dressing enhances your personality, giving an impetus to enlighten your figure so decorating yourself with proper costume is the basic need which you have to choose that how to celebrate the ecstasies or console the event of sadness.

Personality unfurls its importance and impact and nobody can deny from being mesmerized because of your suitably adornment, a cosmetic preparedness & readiness that how you put yourself in the market to sell.

In the materialistic world where everyone performs & acts, depends that how magnificently they performed? Really enthralled people & made others stunned? And how exquisitely they convinced others so basically everyone played their role and got their payment.

Mind it that we are actually selling ourselves does not matter what platform it is but our appearance before public, in office or among family & friend – Our performance’s ultimate objective to earn money or gain moral philosophy i.e. maintaining moral standard, values and principles but economic does not oblige moral support it only envelopes money matters.

And as such the service of a son for his mother falls under obligatory duty and not economic activity but service for the company concludes on earning and that’s the parameter of economic ambit, says Economist. 

Among other requirements either mandatory for employment or working in any disciplines personality gives you spontaneous cheer and spontaneous reaction.

Personality is the first and foremost component when you are in business or on job, or in the meeting or you are on date, or sitting before family and friend & even if you are attending funeral ceremony. Every phases of life ‘’personality’’ is the core and influential symptom that impress others facilitating you to proceed.

In contemporary society where you live every one first looks at your face then your dress & asks how you are? Or How you doing? First observation is the personality which includes face and dress code. If you are with radiant face and radiant smile it encourages others to ask further question. And if you are crying, frustrated or in fierce anger no one has time to ask what the problem you have? Because life is busy and no one has time to get involve and generally avoids.

So live with the people who laughs – don’t debate what has been lost or your past – others are interested in future -they consider who you are and what your plan is? How you look and whether your induction will accelerate their production and profitability so they weigh your caliber but the first thing comes under observation is the personality.

In the world where we live looser and failure have no place at all – does not matter if you lost something or got defeated, such unsuccessful becomes an opportunity for you to correct to re align your priority & re vitalize with more vigor and determination but others have nothing to do with your defeat.

Your characteristics will start radiating when your personality is well groomed, you have matching suits, clean shaved or beard with good outlined, face with acceptable make up and polished shoes such readiness gets you handsome & smart. And then you enter showing your talents such as stronger & persuasive, your outfit will say that you are enthusiastic, energetic, motivated, well organised, equipped with leadership skills & result oriented and that’s the desired potentiality employer is looking for.

Your dress code is the first impression that’s flashes your body gesture, your face impression signals your eligibility and competency that how suitable you are?

In market mechanism if a salesman sells company products or in the bank if a relationship officer (Retail/ Corporate) fishing loans or selling bank products or marketing credit cards - first he sells his personality and then products - so individual readiness in terms of his personality is the core demand before highlighting the attributes of products as among a trail of characteristic of an individual personality is the prime factor.

In practical world everyone  is busy for bread and butter and for gold and glory and from dawn to dusk people are busy, it’s a routine practice but how much the efforts get him/ her prosperous and get them happier it depends how they sell themselves first.

If you have ornamented yourself adequately it means your personality issue is closed & now you opened the door for your other characteristic (the defining and inherited) enabled you to translate to perform the given task with sincerity, honesty and loyalty and how you did prove instrumental in attaining the company goal.

Did you think that how it could possible not because of your sugar coated words but because of your own personality that enabled you to attract the listeners & buyers who convinced with your style of presentation, well-disciplined & suitably attired.

If you have been posted at customer service counter, you should be attired suitably coupled with stated traits & with radiant smile - if you don’t do this you will not be losing your customer but also your employment.

No one will ask what you have taken in the morning whether a glass of water or a glass of milk but everyone will focus on your personality that how smartly you have equipped yourself because personality speaks.

Feb 3, 2015

Time to revamp Pakistan Cricket Team instead to be clouded further with devious, sneaky and unscrupulous who have sucked the Cricket Board

The nation are saddened on the defeat of ‘’Pakistan cricket team’’ not qualifying its serial play to arrive in world up - now at the initial they could not win the match but countered with unforgettable defeat really disappointed the cricket lovers. However there are chances to reach its ambition to contest for world cup.

The reason of unsuccessful got a hot debate among different walks of life that the team did not perform well or meet the target given - what were the irregularity & mismanagement in team selection or the team had not been trained fully with the required technique and mechanism of the game before dispatching the team to contest or the opponent team had been underestimated  or the coach who had been hired from overseas to train our hero (though not) or coach arranged locally were not well versed with cricket technicalities & really were incompetent imparting essential training or what were the reason that made the team failure … are the big question mark?.

But almost everyone are at one page that there are severe-politics in Cricket that has tarnished its image – an underdog syndrome due to thick cloud of politico-association the Cricket in the country has lost its name, unless we induct a technical CEO who is fully equipped with the cricket and its pros and cons instead to appoint people like Najam Sheti who added no value but spoiled and rusted the institution.

We will have to clean the black sheep, the devious, the sneaky and the unscrupulous who have devalued the Cricket Board.

Here we will have to solemn to work the institution honestly, sincerely and devotedly otherwise time is not far when the name of cricket from Pakistan will just be a worth reminding, a history of the past – so don’t do this and revitalize the institution with proper insemination.